Update - not all doom and gloom
So…a little update on what’s been happening with us lately.
As Sue said in in her last post we’ve had a few ripples in our pool lately, mostly concerning Son and a girl that he hooked up with about a month ago. It turned out that she had a lot of problems at home and Son got sucked in to trying to help her sort them out. And that, in turn, got us involved and that, in turn, got some friends of ours involved and the local church and Social Services and…well, it all got very complicated.
It didn’t help that versions of events kept getting altered in terms of what was going on with Son and this girl and what was going on with her home life and getting to the truth was like trying to pin down the shifting sands of a desert.
Son realised that getting involved with this girl was a mistake and has now broken it off with her, except that she doesn’t seem to have got the message. He’s in a tricky position trying to extricate himself from that situation. On the one hand he needs to be forceful enough to make it plain that he doesn’t want to continue in a relationship with her, but on the other hand he has to take it gently because she could probably make life difficult for him if she chose to.
All good life experience for him I guess.
Right now, though, Son is out of the loop because he’s in Australia. He recently dropped out of school has some time until he starts college in September. So I thought he might as well use the time usefully and I arranged for him to go and stay with some relatives of ours over there. He’s gone for 2 months to start with, maybe longer depending how things go.
Poor Sue has been going through the mill lately. Not only has she had to contend with very long, very heavy periods, but her thyroid levels have been low and she’s only just now managed to persuade her doctor to increase her dose of thyroxin. Some of the symptoms of hypothyroidism are lack of energy and loss of libido.
And she’s been suffering from more than her fair share of migraines recently.
And it turns out that she’s anaemic.
Add all that to the stress that we’ve had with Son, and trying to sell our house and, well, you get the picture.
You might imagine from all this that our sex life has taken a major hit. But for the most part it hasn’t. The extended periods have been a bit of a challenge but we’ve made up for it in the in-between times. In fact, despite the fact that Sue has had a particularly bad migraine for the last 4 or 5 days, we’ve had sex on three days out of the last four.
And today, having spent most of the morning in bed, we took the dog for a walk on the beach in beautiful sunshine and had drove to a scenic spot to have a picnic lunch in the car.
By the way, if you’re wondering how we could do this on a Monday it was Sue’s day off from work today and being self-employed working from home I get to choose the hours I work (and yes, I did work hard all afternoon to make up for it - honest!).
So if we’ve had a few challenges to face recently, life is not all doom and gloom by any means.
Tuesday 1 May 2007 00:39
You can’t save the world all by yourself but you can make your own little piece of it a better place. It sounds like you are doing the right thing even if it is painful. The easy path is seldom the correct one.
Tuesday 1 May 2007 02:40
So does the sex help with Sue’s migraines? They sound really, really bad so maybe not but I know when I am sick, having sex can help me feel better -f even just while we are having sex. I’ve noticed I stop coughing, aching, ect. Now, if I could just get my nose to stop running during sex, those breaks to honk my nose are less than sexy in the heat of the moment, LOL.
Tuesday 1 May 2007 17:54
Glad that things are improving for you guys. It’s probably worked out well that your son is away in Oz, as hopefully it will help the girl accept that things are over now.
Wednesday 2 May 2007 03:44
glad to hear you have things under control. can only hope that since your son is in australia, maybe it’ll persuade this girl to let him go. hope he has a great time Down Under, it’s a wonderful place.
good luck with selling your house. hope Sue’s migraines let up, they’re terrible to have.
Wednesday 2 May 2007 06:47
Sorry things haven’t been exactly as you would like them to be. It’s at such times you need each other. Isn’t marriage wonderful!
Wednesday 2 May 2007 13:11
MCB, true.
DFP, if it’s a headache that might develop into migraine then yes, sex can help. But if it develops into a full-blown migraine then no, nothing really helps very much.
BEC, the trouble is I think she’s assuming (or at least hoping) that they’ll pick up where they left off after he gets back.
AllieMallie, welcome. He is having a great time. Thankfully Sue’s migraine has lifted and she’s back to her normal self again.
Alfie, you’re dead right. I don’t know how I would possibly cope if I didn’t have someone to share life’s ups and downs with.
Wednesday 2 May 2007 17:55
Random props!
I just got married a little over a month ago. There are some adjustments and growing pains, but now I wonder how life went on without these conflicts we encounter and conquer together.
Love your site!
Friday 4 May 2007 12:59
Hi Ed and Sue
I am a new reader and I love your writing. I love the fact that you are both so honest and sincere in your writing.
Ed, thanks for the update, I was worried about you two after Sue’s update. I am glad that things are okay and Sue I hope you get well soon.
Nat
Saturday 5 May 2007 02:55
Thanks for the update. I hope all starts working out for the both of you soon, and that Sue starts feeling better.
Tuesday 8 May 2007 01:23
Oh my! I’m not exactly new here, but I am new to commenting. I’ve spent the last few weeks reading almost all of your posts and getting up to speed with your blog, and since I finished up to this point last night, I thought it was finally time to delurk and say hello… and that I love your site dearly.
That being said, I recently got over a bout of hormone induced migraines. I have ovarian cysts and take birth control to relieve the pain from them, but the bith control gave me migraines for a few months… and I also found that orgasms lessened the pain from them lol. Not easy to work with once you’re already hurting, though, so prevention is key. Get busy!
Tuesday 8 May 2007 19:24
I hope you both get through these shoals quickly and that your wonderful life returns to the bliss of before. Our existence is so fragile, a fact we moderns have lost sight of, but something which our forebears knew all too well: life is fragile and should be lived to the fullest every day.
Monday 21 May 2007 02:49
Sorry to hear life has been a bit of a chore lately == I hope things look upward soon.
Friday 1 June 2007 01:05
Glad its not getting you down. Hope you guys post soon.
Mr. H
(long time lurker)
Sunday 1 July 2007 18:45
I miss u two so much…i hope u’re going to update soon.
I love u both!
Tuesday 3 July 2007 20:06
I just found your site and am enjoying it. I think investing in marriage is the best thing we can do for ourselves, our partner, our happiness and our kids. I have started Marriage Mondays on my blog to share ideas about the “little things” that we can do to make each other feel special. Would love to hear from you or link to your site.
Kel
http://newleaftimes.blogspot.com/